Escalating arguments, topics that are avoided, or disagreements that seem to come out of nowhere can leave each of you feeling frustrated and disconnected. 

Learning of a betrayal can make you question everything. It can feel emotionally exhausting as you each try to figure out how to process what's happened and move forward. 

Finding the transition a lot harder than you thought it would be? You're sleep deprived, overwhelmed, and it takes a toll on the relationship and your mental health. 

You feel more like roommates and although you might get along well, you don't feel as close or connected as you'd like. You might be yearning for more intimacy and a more fulfilling relationship. 

One of you wants sex more often than the other, and it's creating resentment or guilt. You might feel stuck in a loop or notice that neither one of you bring up the idea as often.

Congratulations - you're taking a big step forward in the relationship. You want to create a good foundation for your marriage and do what you can to keep your relationship healthy for years to come.